While pregnant I was reading dozens of pregnancy-related blogs. I couldn’t get enough of seeing ‘baby bump’ pictures, nursery pictures, and reading similar stories about the anxiety and fear of child birth. I found it comforting to know that I wasn’t alone in the world of motherhood. At the time I did not have my own blog, but planned on starting one after my son was born. To share him with the world.
But my baby died and theirs didn’t.
I hated them for that. And so, they all had to go.
Delete, delete, delete.
I did however start a blog. Instead of sharing bright, colorful pictures of my newborn son – I had a handful of black and white photos of his lifeless body to share. It wasn’t exactly what I had in mind.
What I didn’t know was that there was a community out there for us. An entire babyloss community where men and women poured their hearts and souls out just like I was. A place where everyone’s story ended the same and we all knew exactly what it felt like. A safe place where babies and pregnancy was tucked away until we were ready to deal with it. A wonderful new way of life.
How to start a blog:
You don’t have to be a computer whiz or Mrs. Moneybags. WordPress.com and Blogger.com are two very popular services and both are free to use. Just follow the simple online instructions to activate your blog and you will be on your way. There are also privacy settings you can place on your blog such as subscription readers only, encase you don’t want the entire world to read your posts.
How to spread the word of your blog’s existence:
Now that you have some posts under your belt, it is time to connect to the babyloss community at large.
Melissa over at Stirrup Queen has the most awesomely anal list of blogs you could ever imagine. If you would like to have your blog listed with her, simply shoot her an e-mail and she will get you squared away. Lost and Found and Connections Abound is also another wonderful website to follow for updates on other babyloss mama’s along with submitting your own news.
Glow in the Woods is another great resource for sharing your blog, along with reading and interacting with their thought-provoking posts.
We at Grieve Out Loud would also like to begin posting links to your blogs. Our Team Page has links to our personal blogs and we invite you all to share your URL and a brief description of your loss(es) so we can publish them.
Blogging might not be for everyone, but we encourage all of you to speak your grief. Grieve out loud.
To share your loss blog please comment or send an e-mail to